my weekend, copying Rachael, poll about vagueness

[eleneariel]

I did a lot of cleaning over the weekend, cleaning up and cleaning out. And I recovered my chair in leftover curtain material, and made some new pillows, and painted some picture frames glossy black, and decided to repaint my room over the Columbus Day weekend.

Have you ever thought about how quirky people are? I do these strange, inexplicable things. When I'm typing and make an error in the middle of a sentence, I'll backspace and erase everything after the error and correct it and type the rest again, rather than arrowing to the middle and just correcting the mistake.

Sometimes words come into my head for no reason. Most of the time I don't know what they mean, or when I may have heard them. Sunday I kept thinking "symbiotic." Every couple minutes it would insert itself into my thoughts.

aftondays had an excellent post about vaugeness. Please go read it if you haven't already, for she puts it into words better than I can. I'm sorry if some people get irritated at me, but I don't always wish to explain myself for everything I say. Many times it would not be prudent for me to be specific--sometimes I just don't want to. I fully open my heart up to only a very few people, and yet I also have to have a forum to speak about what is on my mind--sometimes, yes, in a vague manner. If that's such a problem (and I don't know that it is to anyone), maybe you shouldn't be reading my livejournal.

Nevertheless, I try not to deliberately irritate people. So I offer you the option of clicking on the poll to remove yourself from the Vagueness Filter. (And if you do not and want to complain later, I shall laugh and say "You had your chance!")

[Poll #557117]

I'm not upset, btw. Or cynical. I only feel a little quirky and not to much like agonizing over everything I say to make sure I'm not offending anyone. I'm sure I'll get over it--as soon as someone does get offended, at which point I shall say to myself Mari, you idiot, what have you done? and lose sleep for days. Er, nights.

(Mom just called to say I have two packages waiting for me at home from Silver Jewelry Club. Was that CRUEL or what?!)

Comments

[aftondays.livejournal.com]

Words often pop into my head, too, for no apparent reason. It's like having a song stuck there, only worse, because it's so short.

[eattheolives.livejournal.com]

And sometimes you slip and accidentally say it out loud in the middle of a conversation and people look at you oddly. o_O

[the-storygirl.livejournal.com]

I don't mind vaugeness! I just like reading anything you have to say, and while, if you don't clarify I'll fill in the spot with anything that comes to mind, I'm never set in my assumptions and certainly never advertise. :)

[eattheolives.livejournal.com]

All very good qualities. =)

[melyndie.livejournal.com]

I have the word-stuck-in-the-head problem all the time, as I believe we've talked about before.

Arg, I despise vagueness, but if it's out there, I want to hear it. I am too curious.

[eattheolives.livejournal.com]

What a catch-22!

[melyndie.livejournal.com]

I burn, I pine, I perish!

[savetheolives.livejournal.com]

Oh good, I'm glad they came! You'll have to send me pictures. :-)

(Of course I don't mind your vagueness -- maybe only because I already know what it's about. ;-))

[evening-damask.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean about the word-stuck-in-head problem. Very. Annoying. Thanks to your post, I now have the word "bibliotaph" stuck in my head. For no reason. I was just sitting here thinking about words that get stuck in your head, and suddenly "bibliotaph" popped in and it won't go out. So thanks a bunch. ;) ;)

And I rather enjoy your vagueness, actually. It doesn't irritate me. Of course it makes me curious, but I completely understand not wanting to give out all kinds of information, so I don't expect you to. I like being curious. ;)

[equuschick.livejournal.com]

I haven't read all the comments yet, so maybe someone all ready say this. But I think the problem most people have with vauge posts isn't that they don't get The Full Story, its that they don't understand the point of including the story at all, if they don't get all of it. I've heard a couple people say, elsewhere, that vauge posts should be private. And even though I don't mind vauge posts, I do see their point. Its not that they want you to share everything with them, its that if you can't share it all, than it wastes their time and frustrates them to have any of it shared with them. I don't feel one way or the other about it, its just that I don't think they're saying "Why can't I know everything?" They're saying "What's the point of bothering me with your emotions about stories that I dont' know,anyway?"
That probably didnt' make much sense. Oh, well. I tried. =P

[eattheolives.livejournal.com]

I see their point--but regardless, this is my little space to say what I want (as long as it's not malicious or ill-intentioned, etc.) and if I started bowing to what everyone thought I should or shouldn't write, I wouldn't be writing anything at all. You see?

[savetheolives.livejournal.com]

True, but you also have to take into consideration that you have an audience reading what you write. It may be your own little space, but others are involved.

[eattheolives.livejournal.com]

I know, which is why I now give them the choice to be in on the vagueness. And it's their choice to read or not read, right? Am I being too independant in thinking this? I know that because of the other people I affect, I can't do whatever I want. But honestly, this doesn't hurt anyone--it's personal preference. You don't like coffee. I wish you did. But you will continue to not drink coffee and I will drink coffee. Am I too simplistic?

[equuschick.livejournal.com]

But you will continue to not drink coffee and I will drink coffee. Am I too simplistic?
When you drink coffee in front of Hannah, she is Completely Uninvolved. She doesn't have to scroll down, or look away, or anything. As I've said, I really don't mind vauge at all, but other people don't like having to scroll down their computer page skipping a post that, in their opinion, wasted their time and space. If its on their friends page, it does count as space on their journal. Therefore, I think your Poll is a good idea. You could do that, or just put vauge posts under a cut the way Biz usually does. Just don't feel too superior to the people who don't like vaugeness. It does take a bit of their time, however minute, to scroll down posts that don't communicate anything to them. ;)

[eattheolives.livejournal.com]

Just don't feel too superior to the people who don't like vaugeness

Hey, now! Have I ever said I feel superior? It's a matter of personal opinion, and I'm certainly able to realize that there's nothing superior about having one opinion over another in things like this. ; )

[savetheolives.livejournal.com]

The poll was a good idea, I think. And while it is their choice to read or not, your LJ is still on their friends list and therefore they are an active part of it. It's almost like saying to someone who, say, doesn't like it when you talk about chickens -- it's like telling them it's their choice, they can stop their ears and not listen when you talk to them about chickens. It's not the same thing, because in LJ you're not usually specifically addressing the friends page -- but the idea is similar, I think.

Just thinking aloud. While I'm all for one's personal space when it comes to LJs, I try to see the friends page point of view. LJ's different than other blogging sites because of the friends page; they're part of our journal, too.

[eattheolives.livejournal.com]

I don't mean to keep arguing--I understand, really!--but LJ has flist filters, so someone could just filter my entries out and never see them at all (but still have the option of reading them if they wanted.)

[savetheolives.livejournal.com]

*facepalm* Whatever. :-D Lol. We're not seeing each other's point. But dat's okay. Because it's not a huge issue or anything.

[eattheolives.livejournal.com]

No, no, I really do get your point. I'm just...pointing out other things. *grin*

[emkay-smiles.livejournal.com]

Hey dear, I apologize for this being unrelated, but did I ever send this month's PIN thing to you? Which I think would be Sarah's? I've been so crazy I can't even remember. And I posted my new addy on my page, if you could let Sarah know about it?

[equuschick.livejournal.com]

HA. I knew I wasn't going nuts. I haven't seen it yet. =D

[eattheolives.livejournal.com]

I....don't know. Sorry! I don't *think* I've gotten anything. And I haven't sent anything. o_O I fail, miserably, at being a Responsible Leader. Woe to me.

[emkay-smiles.livejournal.com]

Oh dear. I think that means it's at home. GAH. I am so, so sorry. What can I do?

[eattheolives.livejournal.com]

Umm....I don't know? I've lost track of *everything* about PIN and I don't know what to do with the whole darn thing. Go me!

[emkay-smiles.livejournal.com]

Oh dear. Well, i don't feel so bad.